Today's ❤ Message
Just Keep Swimming!
Dating, in general, is a daunting endeavor that requires a lot of emotional and mental strength. You never know what you’re going to get, which is part of the fun, but it can be hard to keep going after a while, especially if you’ve been in the dating pool for a long time.
Most single people have had moments where they feel ready to throw in the towel. But in the wise words of Ellen DeGeneres’ famous character Dory from Finding Nemo, “just keep swimming!”
Though you may have your eyes on someone special, it’s important to keep your options open, especially in the early stages of dating. You never know what could happen; dating is meant to be exciting and adventurous, so your mindset should reflect that. Staying fixated on one star will only keep you stagnant, preventing you from finding the love of your life.
There are tons of ways to meet amazing people. You may falsely believe that you can only meet someone on a dating app these days, but that couldn’t be further from the truth. Instead, explore your options by talking to different kinds of people versus staying hyper focused on one crush that may just be a passing phase anyway. It’s no fun dating an identical twin.
There are usually telltale signs that a relationship has hit a wall, or will hit a wall soon. Disinterest becomes hard, even impossible to ignore when someone isn’t into it. And a one-sided relationship is never worth your time, energy, or money! It’s normal to feel a degree of sadness when you lose a relationship that you thought might be “the one.”
However, it’s better to recognize the signs of a failing or ending relationship before it gets to a boiling point. Resentments built up over time can sometimes become irreversible, and that kind of falling out deals significantly more damage than if you sucked up your pride while it was possible to leave with minimal repercussions.
A relationship ending isn’t a personal failure. You can take some advice from Dory; she had been through it all, yet she knew the best way to live was to “just keep swimming.”
The Universe is encouraging you to get back out there, even if you have to cut your losses briefly. There will always be someone out there who is going to cherish you as the bright shining star that you are!
The worst thing you can do for yourself is dwell on your losses for too long. Grieve, certainly, but not forever–your perfect match might just be in another dating pool.
Today, there are more ways than ever before to get out there and meet someone. Dating apps are fun and convenient, but you can get creative. Mingling with social circles that match up with your special interests or hobbies might be better for you than an app. It all depends on your personal preferences and expectations.
Either way, you should be open to a myriad of opportunities. Dory didn’t meet Marlin by forcing a connection. All she had to do was be herself, and she found her forever family.
Don’t beat yourself up too badly if you’re currently grieving the loss of a relationship, at any stage of the relationship. Heartbreak is one of the most pivotal emotions that humans can experience in our lifetimes. The best way to cope is to be like Dory and “just keep swimming!” You never know what’s out there waiting for you.
